In these cases there may come a point after you tell your wife that you’re bisexual – but before you’ve done anything – where you are no longer willing to wait for some kind of clear direction or conclusion to your dilemma, if this should pose one.
It’s been nearly five years since I drove my wife up to the top of a local mountain, parked on the side of the deserted road, and told her I am bisexual and that I’d been “experimenting” with men behind her back.
(Read “Confessions of a Bisexual Husband” for the complete story!
We both felt closer and more in love immediately after my revelation.
The biggest issue my wife had about my confession of being a bisexual man was that I’d lied to her: I’d gone with guys behind her back.
I was so tempted to preface my own confession of being a bisexual man with, “Please don’t tell anyone, okay? It means you must be ready for the entire world to know. She’ll probably want to discuss it with someone – a close friend, sibling, whomever. Once I was ready to tell her I was also prepared to face the world.
Not that she will tell the entire world you are bisexual, but it is possible. In fact I wanted to tell the whole world I am bisexual.) I figured she’d freak out when she heard, running and screaming from me – although she’d never done anything like that before.By driving her up to the top of a mountain I knew there’d be nowhere for her to run, and no one to hear her scream. In fact we will be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary this summer, and in fact we are happier now than ever before.However I also knew that my admission may have meant I was living this gloriously authentic life on my own in a little one bedroom apartment downtown, with her having taken the two kids and everything else, except my self-definition as a bisexual man. Many of the married men who tell their wives they are bisexual are pleasantly surprised by the support they receive from their spouses.From the stories I’ve heard, and my own experiences, I can say that people will surprise you with understanding, love, and empathy.Facts I’d like you to consider when pondering your own situtation.